Whether accept or to not accept the JOB offer!

When you receive a job offer, it's important to take the time to carefully evaluate the offer so you are making an educated decision to accept, or to reject, the offer. The last thing you want to do is to make a hasty decision that you will regret later on.

Consider the entire compensation package - salary, benefits, perks, work environment - not just your paycheck. Weigh the pros and cons and take some time to mull over the offer. It is perfectly acceptable to ask the employer for some time to think it over.

Money Matters
Money isn't the only consideration, but, it is an important one. Is the offer what you expected? If not, is it a salary you can accept without feeling insulted? Will you be able to pay your bills? If your answer is no, then don't accept the offer, at least right away. Make sure that you are getting paid what you're worth and you are happy with the compensation. Nobody wants to be in a position where they realize that the salary isn't enough - after they have accepted the job offer. If the compensation package isn't what you expected, consider negotiating salary with your future employer.

Benefits and Perks
In addition to salary, review the benefits and perks offered. Sometimes, the benefit package can be as important as what you get in your paycheck. If you're not sure about the benefits that are offered, ask for additional information or clarification. Find out details on health and life insurance coverage, vacation, sick time, disability, and other benefit programs. Inquire about how much of the benefits costs are provided by the company, in full, and how much you are expected to contribute. If there are a variety of options available, request copies of the plan descriptions so you can compare benefit packages.

Your Personal Circumstances
The bottom line in accepting a job offer, is that there really isn't one. Everyone has a different set of personal circumstances. What might be the perfect job for you could be an awful job for someone else. Take the time to review the pros and cons. Making a list is always helpful. Also, listen to your gut - if it's telling you not to take the job, there just might be something there. Keep in mind, that if this isn't the right job for you, it's not the end of the world. The next offer might just be that perfect match.

It's much easier to turn down an offer than it is to leave a job that you have already started. The employer would prefer that you decline, rather than having to start over the hiring process a couple of weeks down the road if you don't work out. So, do take the time to thoroughly evaluate the offer. Ask questions, if you have them. Take the time you need to make an educated, informed decision so you feel as sure as possible that you, and the company, have made an excellent match. [jobsearch, 2010]

Love question - She or her?

There was this guy who loved two gals at the same time but he didn't know which one he loved more. Someone taught him.

Ask yourself this question and answer it honestly :

"When you are happy, which gal would you want to share your happiness with?" The one you think of is someone you love.

Ask yourself another question and answer it honestly :

"When you are sad, which gal you want to share your burden with?" The one you think of is also someone you love.

If you think of the same gal when you are happy & sad, that's the most perfect. But if you don't think of the same gal, I would advise you to chose the one you are willing to share your sadness with.

In life, there are more sorrows than happiness. There are too many people that u meet that u can share your happiness with, not necessary your lover.

If you live your life happily, you can also enjoy it alone.

In sadness, however, there are not many people willing to share your burden with you. If you are willing to tell someone your happiness, I am sure that person has got to be someone close & an understanding person to you.

But it shouldn't stop there. If that person only thinks of you when she is happy, but looks for someone else when she is sad, this lover is too unstable, she doesn't treat you as someone she can spend the rest of her life with. [lovefatedestiny,2010]

Personally,I am sure that i would be very happy if I am the first person to share his happiness. But, if he is sad, I will be too willing to stay by his side & ease his pain. Only then, will I believe that I hold a very important position in his heart and this is because I love him truly and i wish for nth but his true love in return. "In true love, don't expect how much you could get,but think of how much you could give!"

So, gentlemen...If you are sad, who comes to your mind first? Is that her you love, or is she your lover? She " the one you think of when u sad" or Her " the one you think of when u are happy" ...answer it carefully u,gentlemen! True love won't wait for someone who have too many options in heart. Be specific and clear.. Be true to love, and love will be true to you.

How do we choose between Love and Career?

The below article is originally posted by Cyndi, licensed psychotherapist, about how do we choose between love and work to ensure the less risks in losing any of the two.

If you feel that you are now staying in the middle and doubts of which we to go while both job and love just arrive at a very important stage, hope the below article could help give u some ideas and at least, i believe you would make a good decision.

In these increasingly stressful economic times the choice between love and career has become even more difficult than in the past. Statements such as, “I have no room in my life for a relationship,” or “I was so focused on climbing the ladder of success that I missed the relationship boat altogether,” or even worse, “My marriage ended because I was never home,“ are regular topics in many therapist’s offices. This very black and white thinking has forced people to one side or the other and they are finding it nearly impossible to strike a healthy balance.

It is true that today employers expect more from employees in terms of time and dedication. Professional careers that were once fulfilling adjuncts to a whole life now seem to suck people dry leaving them with little to give to a mate or a family. Family dinners, let alone date nights, have become a luxury reserved for those at a high enough level to make their own choices, those who are self-employed or those who are unemployed. Of course there are still jobs that have set hours and allow for a more balanced life but they are becoming less common. It seems to be an issue that is faced by many across all of the socio-economic spectrum.

So how do you manage this opposing pull? How do you continue to pursue your career goals while not losing sight of your interpersonal ones? In short, it is not easy. You do need to ask yourself some hard questions such as where you see yourself in 5 or 10 years, and how does the job you’re doing vs. the relationship you’re in play into that vision. Some people define themselves by the work that they do and in the absence of a mate, or desire for a mate, that is in fact their priority. This is a very personal choice and there is no one right answer. Certainly many people feel that their career is something they have some control over while meeting a mate and falling in love is left to chance. That statement should be examined carefully for its validity.

If you are in a relationship there are things you can do to make sure that you don’t actually have to make the choice between love and career. Make sure you are on the same page with your partner. If your job requires frequent travel–which can be extremely hard on relationships–carve out very specific times to be together when you are in the same place at the same time. Make a commitment to the time you do have together by focusing on each other. This means setting aside specific times that can be for answering emails, returning phone calls, or attending to work at home. The other times are time off from work periods that are for your partner and or your family. With technology work life has crept into home life like never before. Use your time at work as efficiently as possible so you can get home for that ever important family dinner at least 3 times per week. Take a close look at what your priorities are and try to honor those priorities by living your life accordingly. [healthy relations support group, 2009]