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Understand why your lady cry...

7.22.2010
Women are often cry more than men does. And they might have different reason to cry.
So, below article will lists down some common problem of why women cry.
Notice: the original article is taken from Asker.com which have posted by Mr. John M

Men cry more on logical reasons than women who are more emotionally / hormonally driven.

In the days leading up to her period, your girlfriend is likely to be more emotional than usual and may react to otherwise mundane things with tears. If you think she's overreacting, it's a good idea to comfort her anyway and treat her with some sympathy rather than mock her or completely disregard her feelings, regardless of your own take on the situation. In hindsight, she might eventually agree that she was making a big deal out of nothing, but in the moment there is no course of action but to play along. Make no mistake: Acknowledging that PMS is the cause of her feelings will lead to full-fledged anger and you'll be in for more than you ever bargained for.

Manipulation
Women learn pretty early on in life that men can get uncomfortable when faced with a crying woman, and will often do just about anything to stem the flow of tears. Whether it was a teacher who raised a bad grade after a sob story about a dead dog, or a dad who bought his little girl whatever she wanted so she would stop causing a scene at the mall -- a woman who has had this type of behavior reinforced in childhood will think nothing of trying the same tactics on a boyfriend in adulthood. Unfortunately, it can be tricky to differentiate the sincere tears from the ploy, especially early on in a relationship. When in doubt about her sincerity, removing yourself from the situation is probably the best call, and it’s the only one that guarantees you won't make the situation worse or end up caving in.

Sincere emotion
When it's not hormones or conniving manipulation, the reason for her tears is going to be a sincere and deeply felt emotion. Women respond emotionally to a lot of different situations, so it can be difficult to figure out exactly what's going on with her. The only way she'll be able to start to feel better, however, is if she feels heard and supported. Whether she's feeling hurt by someone (maybe even you) or is feeling frustrated or helpless in a situation she has no control over (perhaps trouble finding a new job), she may resort to tears as a release for her pent-up frustrations. In such a fragile state, your girlfriend isn't looking for a trite Mr. Fix-It synopsis of the matter, she's most likely just looking for someone who is willing to validate her feelings and give her the support she needs to solve things on her own.

Emotional Intelligent (EI)? Successful people have high EI?

6.15.2009
Everyone of us might probably have known some people; either at work or in our personal lives, who are really good listeners. No matter what kind of situation we're in, they always seem to know just what to say, and how to say it, so that we're not gotta be offended or upset. Most of them are caring and considerate, and even if they don't find a solution to the problem, they never gonna lose hope but just maintain being optimistic.
We probably also know people who are really good at managing their own emotions. They are not going to be angry; though, they are in a very stressful and pressure circumstances. Instead, they have the ability to look at that problem and calmly try to find a solution. We can say that they're an excellent decision maker, because they know exactly when they should trust the fact and when they better trust their guts, and they know very well when to trust their intuition. Regardless of their strengths, however, they're usually willing to look at themselves honestly in order to find out deeply of who they really are, before they start to look at other people, and make judgment on other people's weaknesses. What is more, they seem to take criticism pretty well and always find way in using it to their own performance.

Toward the additional research studies, it is said that, people like this have a very high degree of emotional intelligence (EI). Moreover, they are not only know themselves clearly but they're also able to sense the emotional needs of others.

What Is Emotional Intelligence?

We all have different personalities, different wants and needs, and different ways of showing our emotions. Navigating through this all takes tact and cleverness - especially if we hope to succeed in life. This is where emotional intelligence becomes important.

Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize your emotions, understand what they're telling you, and realize how your emotions affect people around you. Emotional intelligence also involves your perception of others: when you understand how they feel, this allows you to manage relationships more effectively.

People with high emotional intelligence are usually successful in most things they do. Why? Because they're the ones that others want on their team. When people with high EI send an email, it gets answered. When they need help, they get it. Because they make others feel good, they go through life much more easily than people who are easily angered or upset.

Tips:

Although "regular" intelligence is important to success in life, emotional intelligence is key to relating well to others and achieving your goals. Many people believe that emotional intelligence is at least as important as regular intelligence, and many companies now use EI testing to hire new staff.
Emotional intelligence is an awareness of your actions and feelings – and how they affect those around you. It also means that you value others, listen to their wants and needs, and are able to empathize or identify with them on many different levels.
For details information about EI - Characteristics of Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman, an American psychologist, and How to improve your EI? , please visit: http://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newCDV_59.htm