Is it LOVE? or else...

Nobody really understands love very well. It is so simple yet complicated.So, below are some questions posed in the articles may help you find the answer you are seeking for.I hope you would enjoy go through that, though, i am not guarantee it to be 100% correct of real love life; somehow, it is at least to be considered on.

1. Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing? and your voice caught within your chest?
it isn't love, it's like.

2. You can't keep your hand off them, am I right?
it isn't love, it's lust

3. Are you proud and eager to show them off?
it isn't love, it's luck

4. Do you want them because you know they're there?
it isn't love, it's loneliness

5. Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
it isn't love, its loyalty

6. Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them?
it isn't love, its pity

7. Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand?
it isn't love, it's lack of confidence

8. Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat?
it isn't love, it's infatuation

9. Do you tell them that everyday they are the one you think of?
it isn't love, it's a lie

10. Are you willing to give up all your favorite things for their sake?
it isn't love, it's charity


11. Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
it isn't love, it's friendship

12. Do you accept their faults because it's part of who they are?
then it's love

13. Do you cry for their pain, even when they're strong?
then it's love

14. Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply, it hurts?
then it's love

15. Do you stay because a blinding incomprehensible mix of pain, and elations pulls you close and hold you?
then it's love

16. Are you attracted to others but stay with them faithfully with no regrets?
then it's love

17. Would you give them your heart, your life, your death?
then it's love

18. And always remember - love isn't one sided!! - Both must love for LOVE to exist! [lovefatedestiny,2009]

LOVE...

Most people didn’t realize how precious to be born as a human being and to be able to find someone who really matter to us.

Since it is known that, Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So, Love the people who treat us right, forgive the ones who don’t and believe that everything always happens for reason.

If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Because we, people, would never know how strong we are…until being strong is the only choice we have.

Do you think you know clearly what LOVE is really are? Just answer this question with yourself…and see, how u might feel to urself with the own definition you have over LOVE!!!

Having no doubts; people always say that LOVE is blind, but why some people says LOVE is the priceless things on earth? Why some says LOVE is hell; while, others says LOVE is the meaning of life? Why there are so many definitions for LOVE, and why it is always show opposite meaning between people?

But, no matter how different LOVE can be defined – the only one thing that must be in common is “HONESTY”. Without Honesty, there is a less in percentages that love could be long lasting.

Tips: When Life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have millions reasons to smile… and you know why? Simple is this, because LIFE is too precious to worry about stupid stuff. So, say what you wanna say, and do what you wanna do. When you come to a decision, believe in yourself, regret nothing (if no impacts on others) and don’t let people who don’t matter, bring you down.

Please don’t let someone be a priority in your life; when you are just their options. The only people you need in your life, are the ones that need you in theirs…so, be careful..guys!

If you fail, and come to broken heart… please stand up and show the world you are strong enough to move on for where you are belongs (happiness). If someone crumbled your heart, let’s fixed it urself… “embrace those who love you & whom you love, and rid yourself of those who will only bring you down”. Life is more precious, not just waste it living with pain and tears due to broken heart.

Hence, I hope this could give you guys some ideas of what should be the core of true love!!!

Love isn't love unless it is expressed;
caring isn't caring unless the other person knows;
sharing isn't sharing unless the other person is included;
Loving, caring, and sharing can make for a very happy marriage.

And together – this is how marriage should be defined.


All the best wishes to y’all!!!

Self improvement is a path to success

Everything that happens to us happens for a purpose. And sometimes, one thing leads to another. Instead of locking yourself up in your cage of fears and crying over past troubles, embarrassment and failures, treat them as your teachers and they will become your tools in both self improvement and your success in life.

When does self improvement become connected with success? It is when you take action on the following tips:

* Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. How can others accept you if YOU can’t accept YOU?
* When you see hunks and models on TV, think more on self improvement, not self pitying. Self acceptance is not just about having nice slender legs, or great body, but concentrate on inner beauty.
* When people feel so down and blue about themselves, help them move on. Don’t go down with them. They’ll pull you down further and both of you will end up feeling inferior and you guys will sure find nowhere to get out off it; unless, you find your self-confidence.
* The world is a large place for lessons, not mistakes. Don’t feel stupid and doomed forever just because you failed at some point in your life. There’s always a next time. Make room for self improvement in your life. Learn from failure, but don't ever repeat it.
* Take things slowly. Don’t expect change over night. Self improvement is a one day at a time process.
* Self improvement comes from your inner stability, personality development. It comes from self confidence, and self esteem.
* Set meaningful and achievable goals. Self improvement is being who you are – not someone else. It is simply being an improved and better YOU.
* Little things mean BIG to other people. Sometimes, we don’t realize that the little things that we do like a pat on the back, saying “hi” or “hello”, greetings someone “good day” or telling Mr. Smith something like “hey, I love your tie!” are simple things that mean so much to other people. When we’re being appreciative about beautiful things around us and other people, we also become beautiful to them. [Kym Kirk, 2008]

Self improvement won't work if you are a give up type. Confidence and struggle will do miracle.

Self confidence is truely a cause for success?

Self-confident people find it easy to lead others and all great inspirational leaders are known to have high degrees of self-confidence. Such people can easily inspire others to become self-confident.

Peers, superiors, juniors, friends, as well as family all share their secrets with you when you come across as a self-confident person to them. You are able to achieve your goals easily and quickly with self-confidence and people will look upon you for advice, mentoring, or coaching.

Everyone admires a person with self-confidence. Confidence plays a critical role in every facet of our lives and it is, indeed, one of the most important factors that contribute to our success and happiness.

Confidence is Neither Magical nor Mystical …
…In fact, self-confidence is a learnt trait which can be easily acquired with correct training and guidance. You can be taught how to be a self-assured and a confident person who is capable and is able to meet life’s challenges full on.
Confidence can be acquired when you are certain about something. That ’something’ can be a feeling, a prediction, an action, or a deed. When you know for sure that your thoughts and actions are the most effective or the best they can be, then you have acquired confidence.

When you take the first steps towards having confidence in yourself, your thoughts and actions become clearer. You view yourself as a self-confident person; your thoughts and actions are congruent with each other and are usually correct. This, in turn, reinforces your self-confidence in yourself.

With confidence in yourself, you can achieve more!
On the other hand, self-confident people are sure about themselves and they move ahead attaining one goal after another. Self confident people are able to take calculated risks and always have the good sense to avoid gambling on life. Self confident people can work far beyond their comfort zones and they enjoy stretching themselves to attain more. Self-confidence urges them to try harder and work towards perfection, and self confident people are also able to bounce back faster from their losses and failures.

Confidence can be displayed in your behavior, your body language, what you say, and how you say it. It is a simple matter of learning the right behavior patterns and thought approaches to life and its challenges.People who lack this vital quality of self-confidence either fail or, worse still, they don’t even make a start. They hesitate, they are unsure, and they spend critical moments (or months) in self-doubt and ‘what ifs’. Negativity and other self-destructive thoughts and action often plague people who lack confidence in themselves.

In a nutshell, self-confidence is nothing more than an innate faith in your own ability and purpose in life. [Kym Kirk, 2008]

No matter in what circumstances; keeping your confidence alive - you'll find where to go. be urself, be who you are, value what you have... try all your hardest and worth it. Nothing is worth more than the "self-confidence".

Anger Management - how to control your anger?

According to Dr. Tony Fiore, So. California licensed psychologist, and anger management trainer; it is known that, It's better to prevent unnecessary conflict than to manage conflict once the flames have started. And, learn to manage conflict by "using your head", rather than your heart.

Sometimes it's simply not possible to regain control over your anger in the moment. And if you can't control your anger during conflicts, you will cause (yourself and others) pain, and run the risk of permanently damaging relationships. So, i would greatly appreciate if you guys could spend some time to go through this article - you might able to learn some anger control techniques, at the end.

There is a common myth that all relationship conflicts should be “settled” in the moment while the intense feelings are present. If you do not do this, you may be accused of “avoiding” the issue. Once stress or anger levels escalate to a certain point, one or both partners reach a point of no-return, due to flooding of the brain with intense emotions. This makes it almost impossible to disengage from each other and stop the fight.

You know it is time to Retreat and Think Things Over when you are:

• Feeling overwhelmed during an argument
• Raising your voice to an unusual level
• Feeling your temper is out of control
• You notice your heart racing
• Sense your muscles tensing
• Can’t think straight and you start to feel hostile.


But what is Retreat and Think things overs mean?

“Retreat and Think Things Over.”
Basically this means to temporarily distance yourself from the situation for a period of time so that both of you can calm down. This allows your bodily systems to return to normal, and allows your normally good reasoning and thinking ability to return.

Why this tool works

Temporarily removing yourself from the situation allows your body to return to normal, provides a cooling-down time. It also allows your brain to return to its normal state where you can reason and think better.

This tool helps prevents you or your partner from saying unfair or hurtful things in the heat of battle—which can easily escalate into further conflicts and resentments, causing you and your partner to become even more emotionally cut-off and distanced from each other.

Some Basic Rules may includes as following:

While the concept of “Retreat and Think Things Over” is simple, it will not work very well unless the following rules are followed:

Rule #1: You can only use the tool for yourself - not your partner. It does not usually work for you to tell your partner it is time for them to retreat.

Rule #2: Announce that you need to take a time out and Retreat before you do it. This should be done using assertive communication in a way that clearly conveys your need to leave before thing get out of hand, as opposed to your leaving to merely avoid dealing with the situation.

Rule #3- You need to commit to a reasonable length of time to return and deal with the issue— no longer than several hours, as a general rule.

Rule #4: Don’t drink or use drugs to get high during this time. It will be much harder, if not impossible, to convince your partner of your sincerity in wanting to work things out if you return intoxicated or high.

Rule #5: Be very careful and very selective in who you talk to during your Retreat Time. While there is a natural tendency to contact a friend or family member who is sympathetic, you should be careful.

Somehow, people might ask: Why is this important?
There should be no doubts; it is because they may have a permanently negative view of your partner, even after you have made-up and things are now fixed in the relationship.You can’t necessarily expect your family to turn the positive emotions back on like you have.

To sum up; we better take temporarily removing ourselves from the situation and allows our body and mind to return to normal; while, allowing our normally good reasoning to return.