Decoding Your Baby's Cries — all Six of 'em!

Crying is your baby's only means of communication. Here are some "crib" notes to help you find out what your baby may be saying.

It's too bad babies don't come with instruction manuals. It would make parenting these early weeks a whole lot easier — wouldn't it? Actually, your baby is trying to give you some subliminal clues to help out. Since she can't tell you what she needs with words — "Hey, got a gas bubble over here!" — she relies on an array of whimpers, cries, and all-out screams to get your attention. You just have to crack the crying code to know what she's saying. Here's a cheat sheet to help clue you in:

* I'm hungry: Listen and look for a rhythmic, repetitive cry, combined with other signals such as rooting for the breast or sucking her fingers.
* I'm tired: You'll hear a cry that starts slowly and builds in intensity and is accompanied by yawns or eye-rubs.
* I'm stressed out: Get ready for a fussy, whiny cry; she may try to turn her head or body away from overstimulating sights or sounds.
* I've got colic: You'll likely know it by the intense screams, accompanied by fidgeting movements; often occurs in the late afternoon or evening.
* I'm in pain here: Listen for a loud, intense, out-of-the-ordinary cry that comes on suddenly (at a time or in a way that's unusual for your baby).
* I'm not feeling so well: You'll hear soft whimpers; usually very different from her normal cries.

A lot of trial and error and time with your baby may help you break her particular code (although some infants are quite inconsistent about their cries, thwarting your attempts to read them). Having a repetitive routine can also help. If your baby's day falls into a pattern of feeding, then a period of alert play, followed by sleep, knowing where you are in the cycle can help you determine quickly what your little one needs. If she has a full belly and an empty diaper, she may be ready for a nap or need a cuddle. [whattoexpect.com,2011]

What is love....

Each one of us has its own definition of LOVE. There are also different kinds of Love such as the love for our children or parent love to their children, Love for our friends, love for our hobby, love for our pet, love for our neighbor and many more. Nevertheless, there is also we called love to the opposite sex like your bf/gf or husband/wife. We fell in love because we choose to let them in to our lives. If you won't allow a person to get involved in your life I'm sure you won't fell inlove with him. That is why I guess there are lots of relationship didn't work out not because they are not meant for each other. It never work out because they choose not to work it out. Oh love, easy to spell but hard to understand. It's only a four letter word but it had broad meaning.
Anyway, I found this scientific and unscientific answers to the question What Is Love? I'm sure you will enjoy reading this and give your own personal opinion about it.

Scientific Answers of What Love Is ~

Researchers (Hatfield & Rapson, 1995) have broken up love into two main types:

* Passionate love which involves continuously thinking about the loved one and also involves warm sexual feelings and powerful emotional reactions.
* Companionate love is having trusting and tender feelings for someone who is close to you.

Now one of the best known theories of love (which means an educated guess that isn't proven fact) is Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love.

The three components of the Triangular Theory of Love are:

Passion, the feeling physically aroused and attracted to someone.

Passion is what makes you feel "in love" and is the feeling most associated with love. It also rises quickly and strongly influences and biases your judgment.

Intimacy, the feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and very good communications over time).

Intimacy is what makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to each other.

Commitment, pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love and to actively maintain the relationship.

Commitment is what makes you want to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for the other person if things get tough.

Now Sternberg also uses his Triangular Theory of Love to answer some of the most commonly asked questions about love:

Is there love at first sight?

This is when we are overwhelmed by passion, without any intimacy or commitment (both of which take time). Sternberg calls this infatuated love, Because there is not intimacy or commitment, infatuated love is fated to fade away.

Why do some people get married after being in love for a very short time?

This is a combination of passion and commitment, but without any intimacy. Sternberg calls this Hollywood love. This is where two people make a commitment to each other based on their passion. Unless intimacy develops over time, this relationship most likely will end.

Can their be love without sex?

Ah yes, companionate love, where intimacy and commitment are present without any sexual passion.

Why doesn't romantic love last?

Passion and intimacy without commitment is Romantic love. When the passion fades, and the intimacy wanes, the relationship ends.

Now, here is the unscientific answers about what love is, check it out if you are familiar with the answers.

Unscientific Answers

Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing, And your voice caught within your chest?

* It isn't Love, it's Like.

You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them, am I right?

* It isn't Love, it's Lust.

Are you proud, and eager to show them off?

* It isn't Love, it's Luck.

Do you want them because you know they're there?

* It isn't Love, it's Loneliness.

Are you there because it's what everyone wants?

* It isn't Love, it's Loyalty.

Do you stay for their confessions of Love, because you don't want to hurt them?

* It isn't Love, it's Pity.

Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand?

* It isn't Love, it's being Unconfident.

Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat?

* It isn't Love, it's Infatuation.

Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?

* It isn't Love, it's Friendship.

Do you tell them every day they are the only one you think of?

* It isn't Love, it's a Lie.

Are you willing to give all of your favorite things for their sake?

* It isn't Love, it's Charity.

Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?

* Then it's Love.

Are you attracted to others, but stay with them faithfully without regret?

* Then it's Love.

Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?

* Then it's Love.

Do you cry for their pain, even when they're strong?

* Then it's Love.

Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?

* Then it's Love.

But do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and elation pulls you close and holds you?

* Then it's Love.

Would you give them your heart, your life, your death? [gossipme.us,2010]

* Then it's Love.

Now, if Love is painful, and tortures us so,
why do we Love?
Why is it all we search for in life?
This pain, this agony?
Why is it all we long for?
This torture, this powerful death of self?
Why?
Because it's...
Love

~Author: Unknown

Is it LOVE? or else...

Nobody really understands love very well. It is so simple yet complicated.So, below are some questions posed in the articles may help you find the answer you are seeking for.I hope you would enjoy go through that, though, i am not guarantee it to be 100% correct of real love life; somehow, it is at least to be considered on.

1. Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing? and your voice caught within your chest?
it isn't love, it's like.

2. You can't keep your hand off them, am I right?
it isn't love, it's lust

3. Are you proud and eager to show them off?
it isn't love, it's luck

4. Do you want them because you know they're there?
it isn't love, it's loneliness

5. Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
it isn't love, its loyalty

6. Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them?
it isn't love, its pity

7. Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand?
it isn't love, it's lack of confidence

8. Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat?
it isn't love, it's infatuation

9. Do you tell them that everyday they are the one you think of?
it isn't love, it's a lie

10. Are you willing to give up all your favorite things for their sake?
it isn't love, it's charity


11. Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
it isn't love, it's friendship

12. Do you accept their faults because it's part of who they are?
then it's love

13. Do you cry for their pain, even when they're strong?
then it's love

14. Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply, it hurts?
then it's love

15. Do you stay because a blinding incomprehensible mix of pain, and elations pulls you close and hold you?
then it's love

16. Are you attracted to others but stay with them faithfully with no regrets?
then it's love

17. Would you give them your heart, your life, your death?
then it's love

18. And always remember - love isn't one sided!! - Both must love for LOVE to exist! [lovefatedestiny,2009]